So, you like to be spanked and restrained? 😇😈 BDSM is a chance to discover some more kinks when you’re in the bedroom. With the right gear, you can decide what you like and what you don’t like 🙈.

We’ll show you the BDSM gear that you can try out to test your limits. You can find the sweet spot between pleasure and pain. 😜 Plus, you can choose to be the one to dominate or submit.🤔🤔🤩

With so many different types of gear to choose from, you have to decide what kind of kink you want to get involved in. You can choose restraints, sensory toys, paddles and canes, and so much more. 😍

The best part is that you can find out that you’re kinkier than you ever imagined. There’s always room for one more toy or tool in your collection. We’ll introduce you to the hottest items so you can expand your sexual horizon.

Fifty Shades of Grey Restrain Me
Bondage Rope  


The short rope is a great way to make a restraint on the wrists or ankles 😋 (2 x 5-metre).

When you want your partner to minimize their movements, you can use the strong bondage ropes. There’s zero stretch in the ropes, adding to the safety.

This bondage rope from the Fifty Shades of Grey 😏 collection has metal ends to ensure safe usage. Plus, the red and black colors allow you to be a bit artistic. You can explore various ways to play with restraint 👀.

PROS: doesn’t cut into the skin, there’s plenty of length for intricate knots, and the nylon won’t come undone, preparation and tying the knots it's the best foreplay you can think of 😌

CONS: A little more expensive, since its only 5m long you cant do some type of full body restraints

Click here for list of best bondage ropes.

Scarlet Couture Spank Me Paddle  


Whether you’ve been good or bad, you can be paddled. This one by Scarlet Couture is attractive and durable. You can use it on some of the most sensitive spots to get quite a reaction. The sound  of it mmm...🤤🤤

The flexibility of the paddle allows you to choose soft or firm spankings. The rope around the handle can be undone to provide you with a restraint. 

The added benefit of this is that it’s made from vegan leather. 

It’s ideal for paddling your partner into submission.

PROS: The paddle provides you with a textured and a smooth side, you get rope to add for a restraint, and the paddle is long enough to use comfortably, paddle sounds great

CONS: It’s not designed for hard paddling (you might think differently)

Icicles Glass Whip  


A good whip can be used as a way of tickling your partner or whipping them on their most sensitive areas. The Icicles Whip has a beautiful design on the handle to make it look as though it’s been carved out of ice.

Not only is it pretty to look at, but you can also be sure to discipline a naughty partner 🙉🙉. The 6.5-inch long handle gives you a good grasp. Meanwhile, the whip is 26 inches long, allowing you to have plenty of fun with it.🔥

PROS: The product is made from genuine leather, the handle is shatter-resistant, and you can heat the handle up for added kink, when swinging it holds the structure nicely and delivers ❤️

CONS: It’s more for the bedroom than the dungeon

All Tied Up Bondage Play Kit  


When you want a few different toys, this bondage play kit is a lot of fun. You get eight pieces to use to help with not only restraint but also sensory play. Good for beginners.

Wrist and ankle cuffs pair well with the under-mattress straps to be able to bind a person to the bed. Then, you have a blindfold to keep the mystery alive. 🙊 The nipple suckers, cock ring, finger ring, and flogger add to the fun. 🙈

It’s a great kit when you’re being introduced to restraints and testing your limits. You won't get embarrassed not knowing how to tie a knot. 😂

PROS: There are plenty of toys to play with, the restraints are padded, and the batteries on the toys are included

CONS: The sensory toys are basic

Slap 'n' Tickle 10 Inch Rubber Flogger  


The name says it all. You can slap or you can tickle with this rubber flogger. It’s easy to use and allows you to have a dominating presence in the bedroom.

You can choose to use it as a way to tickle the sensitive parts or punish a partner with a good flogging. The 10-inch length allows you to deliver the kind of sting you want 😛.

When you’re introducing yourself to flogging, this is an affordable option. 🤑

PROS: The size is small enough to travel with, the rubber fronds won’t sting too much, and the handle gives you full control

CONS: none

Adjustable Nipple Clamps and Clit Clamp  


You can test the boundaries of pleasure and pain with nipple clamps and a clit clamp. With a connected chain, you can clamp all three at once. 🤪
The adjustable clamps allow you to apply as much pressure as desired. There’s also a bit of PVC padding so it doesn’t sting too much. Weights can be added, too, so you can go for a more advanced pinch.

Clamp play is a fun aspect of BDSM and having nipple clamps and a clit clamp should be a part of your arsenal. 🤗

PROS: Clamps are adjustable, the 3-way chain adds to the fun, and the price is right for beginner play 🤑

CONS: PVC doesn’t offer much cushion on the skin

Short Male Chastity Cage Kit  


A male chastity cage kit is also known as a cock cage. It allows you to take a dominating role with your partner (or they, with you), to ensure that the cock is limited in what it can do.
When a man is wearing the chastity cage, they are unable to masturbate or get a full erection. All the control is with the person who is responsible for unlocking the cage. 🤏😈

This short male kit is designed to fit smaller to average-sized penises. It’s easy to assemble, and catheters can be attached for extended use. 😅

PROS: It’s made with medical-grade materials, the pieces interlock for an easy fit, there is an opening

CONS: It can be overwhelming for those with larger penises or men with high sex drive

Slim Leather Cane - Riding Crop  


Caning is a form of “punishment” that is typically used across the bare buttocks. Most people work up to using a riding crop for caning because it creates more of a sting.

The slim riding crop is lightweight and creates a nice sound when you reach contact with the skin. It can enhance a number of S&M scenarios you want to act out. The 17-inch length is also flexible enough to intensify the smack. 😝

PROS: Wooden handle gives you control, leather feel adds to the luxuriousness, 17-inch stem provides a satisfying sound 😊

CONS: It can hurt more than anticipated from an inexperienced person

Fetish Outfits / Cat Suits  


There’s something about latex that adds to the naughtiness factor 😇 in the bedroom. Catsuits cling to the skin, leaving little to the imagination. Plus, there are zippers to expose the parts you want to play with.

Catsuits cover the arms and legs, though some are shortened for style. There’s also fetish wear, allowing you to role-play your way into a spy, a French maid, or something equally as tempting 🔥🔥🔥.

You can wear fetish outfits to a dungeon, a naughty masquerade ball, or to live up to a fantasy in the bedroom 🥰. The catsuit with a back zipper makes it easier to get in and out of.
Who needs nudity when you’re wearing black latex? Of course, different outfits will come in different colors. You can fill one section of your closet with fetish wear to ensure you can appeal to a different kink each time you decide to play 😏.

PROS: They allow you to play beyond nudity, there are countless designs to choose from, kinky 🤤, adding a layer of protection for your skin

CONS: it requires special cleaning products, requires a lot of shipping returns to get the right size

Silicone Ball Gag  


Playing with BDSM can be loud, especially when a person is screaming out as they receive their punishment 🙈😂. A ball gag takes care of that problem. It prevents them from speaking at all.

If you’re going to use a ball gag, be sure that you have a way to stop the play 🤐other than a safe word.

Silicone is the most common material as it allows the person to have the ball in their mouth comfortably. Plus, you won’t have to worry about it chipping the teeth, which could be awkward to explain to the dentist. 😋 Choose medium size or large breathable option.

PROS: Adjustable straps ensure there’s comfort, a dildo can be replaced with a ball in some models, it keeps the neighbors from wondering what’s going on 😅

CONS: Larger balls can be uncomfortable for extended periods

What is the best BDSM gear for beginners?  

When you’re first starting out, the best BDSM gear that you can ask for is the bed restraint kit from the Fifty Shades of Grey collection and basic flogger.


There are a few things covered within the kit. You get an under-the-mattress restraint set along with cuffs for both the wrists and the ankles. You’ll also get a blindfold and a bag to store everything in. 🥰

It’s all easy enough to set up in just minutes. Everything is adjustable to fit your bed and you (or your partner). Plus, it’s more comfortable than a spreader bar when you want to explore restraint play 🤩.

One of the reasons why it’s great for beginners is because it’s all provided for you. Nothing is too serious, so you won’t have to worry about restraints cutting into your skin. It’s adjustable, too, so you can decide how hard your limits are going to be. 

No knots to tie! 😂😂

The soft cuffs will also make it feel more like you’re fooling around than actually being restrained. The Velcro allows the cuffs to come off quickly if you decide you don’t want to be strapped to the bed any longer. With the adjustable cuffs, you and your partner can take turns dominating and submitting. 😈

BDSM Safety  

BDSM isn’t something you just randomly bust out in the bedroom. It involves talking about limits with your partner. Safety is of the utmost importance to ensure everyone is safe at all times.

We recommend following a few tips:

  • Establish a list of “hard” no play areas ✔️
  • Choose a safe word of when activity stops ✔️
  • Learn how the toys work ✔️
  • Engage in dialogue before trying something new ✔️
  • Research different techniques ✔️
  • Know and respect your limits and the limits of your partner ✔️
  • Start off slow and work your way up to more intense scenes ✔️



Limits can change at any time. Don’t let TV and movies dictate what is and is not okay. Talk with your partner regularly to make sure that things haven’t changed. Limits can be added or taken away on a daily basis.

Have Fun with BDSM  

BDSM can be a great way to add some kink into the bedroom. With so many new toys and tools on the market, it’s easier to push yourself and experience more pleasure.

There’s always room for more toys. So many can be used in tandem, heightening the pleasure of everyone involved. Explore the toys that get your heart beating a little faster. ❤️❤️

Once you start down the road of BDSM, you’ll find that you want more and more toys at your disposal. Just be sure to know how they work so you can experience pleasure and not (too much) pain. 😇😇

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