Paddling is so much more than punishing someone for being naughty. It’s also about creating a sweet sting on the skin that can be orgasmic. You may find that you like to be paddled (or do the paddling) from time to time.

Paddles come in all shapes and sizes. They can provide a light tickle or leave a red welt in their wake. It’s all a matter of deciding what it is that you and your partner like.

The material, the shape of the paddle, and other details will factor into the overall pleasure. We have identified a few of our favorites, all for different reasons.

You may find that it’s best to have a few BDSM paddles so you can break them out for different types of play.

Adam & Eve Scarlet Couture Spank 


The Scarlet Couture paddle is great for spanking some of the most sensitive spots. One side is textured while the other side is smooth, allowing you to have some variety within the spankings.

The paddle also has scarlet rope wrapped around the handle. This can be unraveled at any time so you can bind the wrists for a bit of restraint.  

With having both a paddle and rope, it allows you to get two toys in one. It keeps the sub bound while you paddle their tush or any other sensitive area.  

PROS: 90 inches of rope can be used as a restraint, vegan leather paddle is sturdy, texture changes on each side

CONS: The rope isn’t long enough for extensive binding

DOMINIX Deluxe Leather Heart Paddle  


The heart-shaped paddle is ideal for paddling the backside because of the full coverage “thwack” that you get. The faux fur on one side offers a soft, playful feeling while the suede on the other side provides more of a sting.

The loop on the handle provides you with control. It ensures you can swing the paddle in a way that works for you.  

You can choose what your sub feels when you use this heart paddle. Plus, it’s cute enough to ensure no one feels intimidated to use it.

PROS:  Two-sided paddle, faux suede offers an impressive sting, heart-shape provides more coverage, length allows for good control ❤️

CONS: Faux fur can be hard to clean

Sportsheets Leather Slut Slapper


The “Slut Slapper” paddle takes a comical look at using this on a sub who has been a bit naughty. The leather paddle has a branding of “SLUT” down the center. When used hard enough, it can offer an imprint onto the skin.

The split leather paddle is capable of making a loud slap. It adds to the overall excitement of being paddled. The wrist loop also makes it easier to be confident with each swing of the paddle.  

PROS: Great for branding a sub, makes a loud sound, has a handle loop for control, leather provides a good sting

CONS: Can be intimidating for beginners

Tantus Trip 2 Tawse Silicone Paddle 


When you’re ready to move away from a beginner’s paddle, the tawse is a great choice. The slit end delivers a harder sting. It was used as corporal punishment in Scotland many years ago.

The Tantus Trip 2 is a few toys in one. Not only do you get a paddle but the handle also doubles as a dildo. The handle also has a textured grip to ensure control is not lost.  

With the whole thing being made of silicone, it’s also a breeze to clean.  

PROS: Multiple uses out of the toy, the 17-inch length packs a punch, silicone is exceptionally durable, the entire paddle is dishwasher-safe

CONS: It’s not for beginners

Peony Engraved Wooden Spanking Slapper


Wooden paddles are known for providing a harder paddle on the skin. The rounded design provides more coverage on the skin. It will deliver more of a stiff impact as opposed to a sting.

The peony-engraved design adds an artistic look to the paddle. With the weight of the paddle and a hard swing, it can brand the skin with the design.  

The rigidness of the wood causes a reverberation in the skin. It can stir up more adrenaline, exciting the sub. Plus, a wood paddle can go on to last for years to come.  

PROS: It’s made entirely of wood, the design is ideal for branding, the weight delivers a hard smack, the broad shape covers more skin

CONS: There’s no textured grip on the handle

El Jefe Aluminum Paddle


El Jefe is named appropriately because it weighs a little over two pounds. It delivers a powerful punch on the skin that is unforgiving.

With the paddle being made of aluminum, it allows you to get into temperature play. Ice it up ahead of time so that its cold against the skin.  

The holes throughout the design are two-fold. The air flows through the holes so it doesn’t slow down on the way to its target. Plus, you’ll find some post-play branding marks on the skin.  

PROS: Aluminum design allows for temperature play, the holes provide branding, looped handle offers control, made in the USA

CONS: Weight isn’t for the faint of heart

BDSM Safety

BDSM safety is important as some sessions can be mentally and emotionally taxing. You also want to ensure that you’re being safe with the various toys and tools you’re using.

  • Ensure paddles and other toys are in good condition
  • Learn where it is and isn’t appropriate to paddle
  • Confirm hard limits with your partner
  • Establish a safe word or gesture
  • Check-in throughout the session
  • Don’t push your partner beyond their limits with pressure, time, or anything else
  • Use a salve or other product afterward to heal the skin


Particularly with paddling, you have to be careful as to where the paddle is hitting the skin. You want to go for the “meaty” parts of the body. Hitting other parts of the body can hurt, and not in a fun and sexy way. Additionally, you have to look at how you’re going to hit, such as whether you want to go for a sting (speed) or a thud (force). Be sure you and your partner discuss what is desired.

A BDSM session isn’t over until everything is cleaned, put away, and both the dom and sub have had their aftercare. It ensures that everyone has recovered. Additionally, it’s a good idea to talk about what you did and didn’t like.  

Final Thoughts

Playing with paddles and other BDSM toys can heat up your playtime considerably. There’s a fine line between pain and pleasure that you can explore in-depth. As you progress into more BDSM play, you can start to explore more products.

When you have more toys, it allows you to get what you want in the moment. You may decide that having more than one paddle and restraint gives you the ability to change up your BDSM sessions from day to day. After all, you may want to provide more of a sting some days.

Enhance your playtime by shopping for various paddles and restraints today.  

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